Updated: Mar 2
One of my main missions as a Happiness Expert and a founder of Personal Growth Consulting is to help people get rid of their herd mentality and accept the inexhaustible wisdom of their inner being. I am not going to get into explaining why listening to your inner being is important since I’ve already written numerous articles on this topic (please refer to 6 REASONS WHY WE DON'T FOLLOW OUR HEARTS AND HOW TO CHANGE THAT), but I will mention that the only way you obtain true freedom, love, happiness, and success in this life is by being authentic and this begins with understanding who you are.
Most of us have formed some ideas of who we are. When asked, we can promptly reply by providing the titles of our professional occupation (I am a lawyer or a doctor), or a marital status (I am a husband or a widow or a fiancé), or organization we belong to (I am a student or a volunteer), etc. All these are just social labels that we acquire throughout life. But have you ever asked yourself this:
Who am I underneath all these labels?
We all came into this world with a purpose to contribute to the expansion of our universe. When we emerged from the pure divine energy that carries multiple names – God, love, source, creator, universe, etc. - we were given unlimited access to the universal mind, that has answers to all questions.
The universal mind is a higher consciousness that contains all thoughts
that have ever and will ever be thought, all solutions that have ever
and will ever be created, manifestations of all desires that have ever
and will ever exist, and all possible life scenarios that you,
and anyone who has ever lived and will ever live can have.
As we began to occupy this planet in the form of humans, we also established a system of norms and regulations that we refer to as a society. Sadly, we got so absorbed in living our human and social lives that we completely forgot about our purpose and that we have access to the universal mind. Many of us got so caught up in our daily routine of complaining about life, worrying, doubting, feeling insecure, and burying ourselves under a pile of ridiculous excuses that we no longer contribute to the expansion of this universe. We are just recreating the same scenario over and over again. We forgot how powerful and creative we could be when we connect to the Universal Mind, and instead, we are just using our social mind and fighting for survival. However, only in a brief moment of distancing ourselves from playing our social roles, you may still wonder:
Who am I beyond this label that was assigned to me by society?
If you ever wondered about it, you are not the only one. As humans become more awakened and move closer to understanding their purpose in this universe, the more we question whether this is all there is to life. And the more we ask this question, the more stiff, inflexible, and uncomfortable our position in life becomes. In this sense, the beliefs and perceptions that helped you build the worldview you are now living in are beginning to feel like a maze, a very limiting maze. Sure, not too long ago, probably right before you had tasted the bitterness of adulthood, the world seemed like an infinite field of possibilities and opportunities, you were showered with the vastness of exciting experiences, and you were riding a high wave of life in the absence of any doubt that all your ambitious dreams will manifest. But then, little by little, society tamed your enthusiasm and yielded you a life that we like to call reality [heavy sigh].
The social mind – a system of beliefs, traditions,
rules, and expectations, that
dictates how you should be living your life.
This reality that our society perpetuates is no less than a maze of limitations. In this so-called reality, you become so limited in your abilities that you have no other option than to conform. Your big dreams, despite the inspiration and passion, become irrelevant, and, sadly, even if you try hard, you may never escape the walls of this maze. Now that you have become a part of society, you have adopted the social mind – a system of beliefs, traditions, rules, and expectations that dictates how you should be living your life. The social mind is designed to remind you about all your mistakes, trigger your insecurities, and wrap you with your own fears that will constrict your attempts to live abundantly. It tells you what job you should have, what house you should buy, how many children you should have, how you should raise them, what kind of car you should drive, where you should go on vacation, what you should wear, and even how you should behave. This society got all these questions figured out for you, and all you got left to do is to follow obediently. The social mind believes that your dreams are unattainable, life is unfair, and people like you will never succeed.
Even if we do everything right by social standards,
we will always have a sense of emptiness inside
because we are not letting our inner being
reconnect with the universal mind.
It doesn't matter how tragic the description above may sound, but this lifestyle suits most people. They are getting dosed out by participating in the game of life where they are expected to work hard and serve diligently. Then, of course, there is that long-awaited sense of gratification that comes to those who suffered the most. Society loves to glorify their struggle and even mandates it discreetly if you want to be accepted in certain groups. Think about it: if you described your effortless and beautiful life in those college application essays, you wouldn't get accepted to any college because only those who showcase their painful battles get rewarded.